Life book of choices

"Everyday we have choices"

How many times have we all heard that. Most people don't think it's such a big deal- those little choices at parties or certain Facebook posts. 

If you think of your life as a book things can get a bit better. Think of everything that you have ever done in your life time, your firsts, your friends, your choices. 

Your firsts- that is always something you want to remember and be special. They are pages in your book you will read later in life. Would you want a page to say "she got drunk at a party and made out with some guy" 

I guess if you don't care- Go ahead. 

For me, I wanted to make sure my first kiss was special and it turned out like that, it's a page I will be glad to have in my book.

I know that thinking about life as pages really helps me choose things like that. 

If a guy asks you for pictures of you in your bra or underwear or nude, will you take them? Would you even think about it? I have come across the decision before. I knew I didn't want that page in my book for me to read and remember later on and regret or even for someone else to read! 

You may think "no ones going to know" but think back on things you didn't want anyone to know and sure enough someone knows or found out. For girls sometimes it's instinct to tell at least one person. No matter how bad it is, you feel like you can tell your best friend in the whole world. Remember- that's now one person who knows. 

In everyone's head we all judge. You could be the best friends ever but you will remember what happened. Of course you guys will still be friends but the judging thought is still there. 

*some things I feel like cant count towards what I'm saying, if you have been raped tell someone, speak out, it's ok. You are a victim of something bad, not your choice <3 

Facebook/Twitter posts- 

It's been said- everything you put on the Internet is there forever. It is a digital page. Friends, family, and employers all see it. Enough said ;) 

I hope this was helpful for some people, if it was comment, share, let me know! :) 

Dating friends brothers?

First of all, one of my best friends has a little brother. He is in grade 8, I'm in grade 10. I have been friends with her for 2 years and I am over at her house all the time. She told me once that he liked me. Of course I would believe her because they are close and he hangs around us a lot.

I didn't really know if I liked him or not. One day, while we were all skiing, I thought I'd tell him I liked him so I could ski away with my friend and see if what she told me was true.

He pretended he never heard me so I just dropped it. A couple weeks later his friend stole his phone and said "i love you". He got it back and said "That was Erik, but I still like you". What my she told me was right. At school everyone was asking if we were dating, which we weren't. His friends just started that. To be honest, I was embarrassed to 'like' him or to even date him.

It wasn't bad after a while and on Valentines day he asked me out. I said yes, I was just going to see how it went. It was my first boyfriend. I still went over there a lot and my friend didn't like that we would hang out. I understood but I was trying to make time for both of them. Surprisingly it got us closer but also with rocky parts.

He broke up with me two months later over text. He was nice to me about it and I found out why he wanted to break up. He thought I was annoying, competitive, and clingy. Unfortunately I can agree with him. I didn't know anything about dating and neither did he.

It started getting worse around him when I would go over though. He would be super mean to me around his friends and my friend wouldn't do anything about it. She has to lie to me to get me over. She would say that he wont hang around us, then when I get there he is around us a lot and just keeps going with his comments. He talks bad about me to his friends and to his sister. I wouldn't care if he was some random guy that I would just stop talking to. Its mainly that im still over there a lot and he wont stop being immature about it and grow up. We don't have to be friends but we don't have to be enemies.

I don't know what to do about it. I am still friends with her and will always be. I don't care what he thinks of me, but he could at least not act like a tool around his friends to be mean to me.

My advice about dating your friends brothers. Don't do it. Unless you aren't soft hearted. You don't want to ruin your friendship, its not worth it. Don't go in thinking it will last long. I did know these things before and was actually surprised it lasted that long.

Sometimes I wish I never dated him but the truth is I don't regret it. What I just really wished is that we would just go back to the way things were before we started dating. I know that won't happen and thats why I think I wish we never dated but I still don't regret it. I only don't know what to do now.

This was made somewhat as an advice blog so I am telling my story with advice but I am also asking you guys your thoughts. Comment below any experiences you all have had, tips and maybe thoughts on what I should do.

Teens drinking?

Im going to start off by saying, I don't drink. I have never even tried a sip of alcohol. I am 16, smart, love life, want to get a good job, and I can still have the time of my life sober.

I have a group of friends with two best best friends. We all balance each other out. I am the social and spontaneous one, my friend is the smart, grounded and quiet one, then there is the other. She is kinda the random one of our group of friends. She is boy crazy but doesn't get any, wants to feel accepted and gets overly jealous. Don't get me wrong, we still love her! She is what makes us whole. ;)

This girl likes to drink but she's not a partier. She only drinks because she thinks its cool and wants to be accepted. She also thinks I'm weird for never have trying it. My question is, Does drinking really make you 'cooler'?

I go to a very small school, there are only 25 of us in our grade. There is one girl in our class whom nobody likes. She is a huge slut, rich kid, parties and drinks all the time. She is one of those teens that would come to school hung over and want to tell everyone about it. She is one of those teens that has sex and want to tell everyone about it. Nobody cares or thinks she's cool for doing it. People think she is annoying and literally out of the 25 of us, she has no good friends.

Wouldn't that show that drinking, sleeping around, and being bad isn't necessarily a good thing? No one thinks you are cooler for getting drunk on the weekends. I can say I am very happy as a alcohol virgin ;)
People do stupid things while drunk then never remember the night. They usually hook up with some guy, have terrible pictures of them posted on social sites, then get a bad reputation.

Why? Why drink? Why would anyone think it makes them cooler?
Its such a cliche question but I would legit like to know the answer.
My friend told me she drinks because she has more fun while drunk. How come someone would need to not be themselves to have fun. Alcohol changes who you are so all you are doing is masking yourself to be 'more fun'.

I may get made fun of for not smoking, drinking, or sleeping around but I can imagine how much MORE made fun of I would be if I did do those things. I hear how people talk about them behind their back and I know I judge people who choose to do those things. I would rather have friends who like to party with me as me, then party with a lifeless drunk teen who only lasts for as long as they can be drunk.

You get dammed if you do, dammed if you dont.

Make the decision for yourself, not others.

Peer pressure = not cool ;)

Beach, Water, Love

The beach

Sand between your toes 

Water crashing ahead 

To me, going to the beach or the lake is calming. You just sit watching the waves, forgetting about everything.

People who don't sit to reflect on happy things end up more depressed then people who do. 

If you are ever feeling hopeless, alone, scared, try thinking about something simple. Nature can subconsciously make you a little happier, even without thinking hard. 

Sit and relax sometime 

Try it 

YOLO right? ;)

Socializing in school... Populars?

  A boy at lunch time
 Sits quietly in corner
 Reads his kobo alone
    Is he anti social?

You see someone by them self and you think, they must not have any friends. Or do they?
A boy  sits at lunch alone on his kobo. Why doesn't he sit with people?
Is he anti social? What am I then? I'm quietly blogging, typing to a virtual world.
I am very social still. Hanging out with friends all weekend, meeting as much people as I can. I have to find time to reflect on life and all the little things.

I see him outside of school at the rink. I figure skate, he plays hockey. I began to crush on him. He is always enjoying himself and with friends. None of which I recognize, they are from out of school.

I urge him to sit with us at lunch. He is getting better at socializing at school. I used to have that problem. All my friends were outside of school. I still had them and fun times, just not published

What are we at school for? Parents say to learn. Kids say to socialize.
Some how there are still popular kids and unpopular kids.
How do we judge that?
By the amount of friends one has? The amount of people like them?
When you ask someone no on really has that answer.
We all still get bullied and by lame things.


There is a life outside of school. Friends that school kids don't see.
I don't understand how we can tease someone for not having friends when we don't know them outside of school. I see how I judged that boy from first sight, then after getting to know him, he is cool and popular out of school.

If you are getting made fun of or hate going to school because of bullies, just know- they make fun of people thinking it solves their own problems. The bullies at my school have big life problems and their bullying has stopped getting to people. We all know no one likes them. To the outside they might have the popular look, but popular to me is the amount of people who like you. No one likes them, they are not popular. Find true friends wether they are at school or I'm your neighbourhood. School is a place we learn, not get teased.